don’t Feel Like Doing Anything
“The only alternative seems to be doing nothing…and doing nothing, I find, rarely accomplishes anything” – Cassandra Clare
When you wake up in the morning, you have a different level of motivation each day. Sometimes, it is easy to get through the morning routine and off to work. You take comfort in going through the steps. On other days, you must drag yourself out of bed and move slowly through the routine. If there is a feeling that motivates you or something that you have to work on that inspires you, it’s easy to complete the first steps in the day.
If nothing is driving you, there is a vast space to be filled, and you don’t know how to fill it. It could be a mental health problem or just a motivation thing. When you get days off, these are especially hard to choose how to spend. It’s okay to do nothing, sometimes you just don’t feel like doing anything. But here is what you can do if you want to accomplish something.
1. Look At What Would Make You Feel Better
We can often feel better when we are pursuing tasks that will serve others. Examples are: spending quality time together, brightening a person’s day, listening to someone’s problems, helping with chores or errands, buying what someone really needs, or helping someone achieve his or her goals. You could spend a day when you have no motivation working for someone else’s objective. If it will get you out of a funk and be productive, go for it!
2. Look At What Might Benefit You
You can also structure your day to accomplish things to avoid a negative consequence or achieve a financial benefit. For example, you might put in a Saturday morning at work to get a report done that you failed to complete on Friday and avoid the wrath of your boss on Monday morning. You could also work overtime at your job on Wednesday night and have money in your next paycheck to take the kids to the amusement park. If you see a benefit from a potential task or problem, then you can evaluate whether it’s worth your time doing it.
3. Look At How You Might Relax Alone
Sometimes, we spend too many days in a row pursuing a set of activities, including work, school, caring for relatives, paying bills, cleaning the house, etc. We don’t take enough time for ourselves. We need to plan a time to be alone with ourselves and unwind. We need to connect with our inner voice or even find that deep connection with the divine. If we don’t allow some time for self-reflection and solitude, we can quickly burn out from the hustle-and-bustle approach to life.
4. Look At What Are Important Goals for the Near Future
When you spend time in solitude, you have the opportunity to clarify your goals for the near future. This is about closing the gap between the skills or living conditions you have, for example, and the skills or living situations that you want for the future. A good example is a person who wants to find an intimate relationship and to build a life together. He or she can spend much time looking on dating apps for the right partner, but, time after time, meeting new potential partners ends in rejection or disappointment. It could be that you need to step back and rearticulate your goals and determine if you are going about them the wrong way. It could be that, after looking at yourself, especially during self-reflection, you find there are still things you need to improve about yourself before you can reach specific goals. Write down essential goals on a sticky note and hang them up where you will see them.
5. Reconnect With Friends and Relatives
There is nothing motivating you today that is presently on your radar. It’s time to put new things on your radar that could make you feel great. If you think about who you know from the past, including old friends and distant relatives, it only takes one direct message, email, text, or phone call to reconnect with them. A day when you have nothing planned is a day when you can talk for hours and catch up with people. You may not be able to set a time to meet them soon, but you can share your life and reminisce about old times. You can also meet new people through your past relationships.
6. Make a Plan for the Day
When your motivation is low, write a simple plan for the day. This could include a variety of must-do tasks and ways to unwind. For example, you could plan to go to the thrift store, stop at the supermarket for a few healthy foods, and then come home and cook a nice meal. Then, plan to take a long walk to the park, and then sit there until sundown. Reflect on your life and what goals are coming up in the near future while following your plan for the day. In this kind of pattern, you are good to yourself by getting proper exercise and nutrition, but you aren’t limiting yourself to what might happen along the way.
7. Do What is in Your Best Interest
Motivation can be very low when you are postponing something that you know is important for your health or sanity. If you want to quit smoking, for example, you could associate the act of inhaling cigarettes with a painful memory. I found it helpful to quit smoking by recalling the time I was in the emergency room on Christmas night with an asthma attack. I kept imagining that feeling of not being able to breathe, and I have never smoked another cigarette. It has been eight years. Using a pain point is a way to motivate yourself to avoid a negative consequence.
Find Ways to Reward Yourself
You can try all of these tips I shared above to motivate yourself when you don’t feel like doing anything. When you follow any one of them or another suggestion I haven’t mentioned, be sure to reward yourself. You need to give yourself time to celebrate successes and to indulge in pleasurable activities after meeting your goals!