What are your feelings about at this exact moment about your life or situation? According to Grabhorn paying attention to your feelings is the way to change your life and she reveals him in her book Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting.
She reveals that the power of the feelings unconsciously shapes and molds each moment of your life. When you pay attention to your feelings, you are able to change what you attract and can, therefore, change any aspect of your life.
This Excuse Me Your Life is Waiting summary will discuss the four steps that she gives in her book on how you can get the life you want.
The premise of her book is what she calls The Law of Attraction. Her law states that likes attract. If you have positive feelings, your body sends out positive vibrations, and therefore you attract good things. When you have negative feelings, the opposite happens. Grabhorn explains it simply as this;
“That’s right, we get what we get by the way we feel, not by trying to slug things into place or control our minds. Every car accident, job promotion, great or lousy lover, full or empty bank account comes to us by the most elemental law of physics: like attracts like. And since most of us haven’t felt too hot about what we’ve had for most of our lives, we’ve become highly gifted masters at attracting an overabundance of circumstances we’d rather not have.
You want a new car? You got it! You want to work successfully for yourself? You got it! You want to close that deal? Make more money? Have a great relationship? Live without fear? Have a spiritually fulfilling life? Have excellent health, freedom, independence? You got it if you know how to feeeeel it into being.
The Law of Attraction—like attracts like—is absolute (and has nothing to do with personalities). No one lives beyond this law, for it is the law of the universe. It’s just that we never realized until recently that the law applies to us too. This is the law behind success or failure. It’s what causes fender-benders or fatalities. It is, to the point, what runs every waking moment of our lives.”
To get to the life that you want, Grabhorn gives a four-step process to follow. Here are the steps she discusses in her book in chapters 3, 4, 6 and 7 respectively.
Identify what you don’t want (No, no, Not that) – this chapter is about not focusing on the things around you that you do not want. When you focus on the things that you do not want, you attract them.
“When you stop to think that we’ve spent decades questioning what’s wrong with everything, therefore focusing on all the things in the world we didn’t like, didn’t want or wanted to change, it’s little wonder we’ve attracted such a barrelful of trials.”
You should understand what negative emotion is because sometimes it is so covert. This will help you to spot it easily, know why you are having it and know how to take control.
Identify what you want (Yes, yes! That, that and that!) – now that you know what you do not want, it is time to uncover what your wants really are and know what to do with them. After you have identified what you really want, then you magnetize it with your feelings and attract it to you.
In this step, she explains the three basic wants that we have in life; real wants, negative wants (for instance I want to be rich, it means that you feel you are not rich. I want to be well, means you are sickly) and rightful wants (these are your rights). To identify what you want, ask why you want it and find a “because” or a reason for wanting it.
Find the feeeeling place of your want – now that you have identified what you want it is time to bring in the positive vibe and feelings. You need to send out the positive vibrations that will make it possible for you to get your want. You need to let the energy of the universe flow through you.
Be open to the universe because it sure has whatever you need and when you have attracted it enough it will come to you. How do you achieve this?
You can start by intending some simple things during the day. Just say I intend to _________. With these little intentions that you have, you will create positivity around you as you achieve what you have intended. In the long run, you will attract the intended final outcome even when you had not stated it anywhere.
Expect, listen and allow it to happen – the last step might seem very easy and passive, but it is not. There are so many distractions today that can knock you off the path that you are trying to take.
To really get what you want, you need to be expectant of it, listen to what the universe is saying to you and allow things to happen. When you have found the flow, then you will be amazed at how much better your life will be.
What I Like About the Book
The book is written in an easy to read, humorous and upbeat style that makes you just want to read more and more. However, it is not all about humor. In every other page, be ready for a moment of eureka. The book is packed with wonderful insights, ideas and strategies that you can apply in your life with ease.
Why You Should Read the Book
Read this book if you are tired of living a mediocre and so-so life. You were not meant to be average, and this book will help you to live a fulfilled life in many different aspects.
Whether you want to have a fantastic relationship, to make more money, to get the body of your dreams or anything else you want in life, this book will point you in the right direction to getting it.
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