I Feel Stuck
Feeling stuck in life is like trying to find your way through a confusing maze to get to where you want to go. I can attest that learning how to piece together the “puzzles of life” is the first step in deciphering how to become whole again.
“Nothing that is good can become stuck – and if it is stuck, it can’t be any good!” – Silvia Hartmann
This article highlights ways you can overcome barriers that keep you feeling stuck in the pitfalls of life and how to get back on track on an evolutionary journey of taking charge of your destiny. To help you get rid of the “I feel trapped” feeling.
The Struggle with Being Stuck
Many of us meander through life without truly discovering our sense of purpose. We feel stuck in our current condition, whether it’s a stagnating career, disintegrating marriage, or goals that were never transformed into reality. Being stuck ignites feelings of regret, disappointment, and even despair, and figuring out how to unwrap the layers of an unfulfilled life and get on with the business of discovering our real purpose in the world is the ultimate challenge to learning how to get unstuck.
The great poet and Nobel Prize winner in literature, Maya Angelo, has a poignant quote that incites a desire to self-reflect on our purpose in life. Angelo states that:
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” – Maya Angelo
We all have stories inside of us that have not been released, those hidden gems we keep under lock-and-key because we’re stuck in our own way and feel incapable of transitioning into unchartered territory that life presents.
There are three core reasons why we experience phases of feeling stuck with life, and they include:
1. The lack of Clarity
2. The lack of Emotional Stability
3. The lack of Techniques
When we can’t see the proverbial “light at the end of the tunnel,” feel emotionally constricted, and don’t have a strategic plan for getting unstuck, life can seem like an invisible barrier that keeps us from discovering our “authentic self.”
As an aspiring writer with aspirations of writing a book, I was stuck in my own way for many years and believed that I was not “qualified” to write a book. My interest is in how people can overcome obstacles and achieve their goals. Although I felt I had the potential to be an author, I tricked myself into believing I wasn’t “good enough.” That “I am stuck.”
It took some major soul-searching to convince myself that I can be a good writer and achieve my goal of becoming an author. While I’m still a “work in progress” in my writing journey and getting close to completing my book, it was an emotional relief to get unstuck and commit to believing I can succeed as a writer.
Reasons Why We Get Stuck
There is a myriad of reasons why people fall into what be described as a deep chasm of being stuck and not having the will power or desire to plan an “escape.” In an aptly titled article named “Why People Get Stuck in Life,” the online site, Power of Positivity, addresses the following reasons why many of us get stuck:
1. They Accept Their Situation – Some people accept their lot in life and do nothing to change it.
2. They Become Creatures of Habit – They take solace in their daily routine.
3. They Avoid Risk – Risk means the potential for failure, and failure is painful.
4. They Take Things for Granted – Some opportunities are once in a lifetime, but to someone in a rut, they think the same opportunity will roll by again right on schedule.
5. They Give Up Their Dreams – It is easier to give up on your dreams than to fight for them.
The above reasons on why we get stuck in life are realities for people who let their potential slowly disintegrate over time. Getting unstuck requires a willingness to say enough-is-enough and take a chance in going a different direction to fulfil our calling. Eric Thomas, a motivational speak and author, states that “If it’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.”
Many people have not become the painter they want to be, don’t have the business they’ve always wanted, have not gone to the gym to lose weight and get in shape, have not written their novel, or have yet to become a world traveler. Being willing to admit “I’m stuck” is a critical step in taking a proactive stance in exploring ways to get unstuck and change the trajectory of your life.
Ways to Get Unstuck
There are numerous ways to get unstuck in life, and discovering what works best will enable you to move forward in a positive direction. According to Psychology Today, there are seven strategies people can integrate into their lives as they explore ways to get unstuck, and they include:
1. Let go of the past
2. Change your perspective
3. Start with small changes
4. Explore your purpose
5. Believe in yourself
6. Practice being hopeful
7. Consider talking to a professional
Learning to get unstuck requires a shift in mindset, a willingness to transition from a life of “What if’s” and “I should have” to one of “I will” and “I must.” The desire to get unstuck signals a willingness not to accept our lot in life or be constrained by limiting beliefs that push us backward instead of forward.
Wayne Dyer, a self-help author and motivational speaker says it best in stating that “The only limits you have are the limits you believe.” This is a powerful quote because it illustrates that whether we’re stuck or unstuck, the idea of “limits” is linked to how we choose our path.
Getting Unstuck is a Matter of Belief
Feeling stuck does not have to be permanent, not if we don’t want it to. We all have difficult periods, the times when it seems there is “no way out,” and we’re “falling apart.”
I’ve gone through life’s challenges myself and felt stuck with not living up to my potential, finally realizing that if I didn’t take a chance and seriously commit to my goals, then I won’t know what it’s like to be truly unstuck.
The most important thing to remember is that getting unstuck is possible that we can change the course of our lives.