How To Be Responsible?
When we enter the world, a blank canvas is born. Deep inside, surprise elements have been provided to paint your best self. Your humanity is a purposefully unique and intricate formula designed for understanding, reacting, and evolving.
In laymen’s terms:
To understand, react, and evolve = taking responsibility for your actions.
When this formula is respected, the door to happiness can be yours.
“Responsibility to yourself means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and naming for you; it means learning to respect and use your own brains and instincts; hence, grappling with hard work” – Adrienne Rich
Taking Responsibility 101
The Basic Beginning of Taking Responsibility
The reference of entering the world in infancy is a critical analogy to appreciate when trying to improve ourselves, regardless of actual age. Stages of taking steps toward responsibility for growth begin in the infancy of experience.
For example, parents try to teach responsibility to children by offering unconditional love when the child makes a mistake. By approaching the child with calmness, the adult shows the child a version of parental responsibility. This approach helps to build trust. It encourages the child to feel safer in accepting his part in the mistake made. Had the parent shamed the child for making a mistake, the child might have experienced rejection and chosen not to take responsibility for the mistake.
As children, building trust through unconditional love regardless of circumstance is the key component to life because this is how we successfully take our own accountabilities into adulthood.
Adults And Taking Responsibility For Your Actions
Simpler days of youth may be gone; but, life continues, and so must we.
Has there ever been a time that taking responsibility for your actions just didn’t seem worth it? Have you ever experienced taking responsibility for your actions to be rewarding? As an adult, young or old, has taking responsibility for your actions made things harder or easier? These are essential questions to ask yourself.
The Blame Game
If low self-esteem plagues you, try to accept that you are still a very valuable person. Low self-esteem can be looked at in a variety of ways. One such impact is that it is a learned behavior – meaning, your true nature felt to be in purer form before certain negative behaviors or signals were taught to you to take on as your own. As a child, there was little you could do about this misfortune.
It is easy to blame others for circumstances that were out of our control as young children. As adults, the blame game can grow into a very debilitating crutch that removes you from living your best life.
Taking responsibility for everything in your life is your power. Even if you didn’t cause a problem to happen, take responsibility for it anyway as if you had been in control. Accept the power of awareness and realization of how problems occur and how they can be remedied in your life. In this way, low self-esteem is given a chance to become educated and eradicated by taking your power back from anything that happens. You don’t have to feel like or become a victim ever again.
Benefits of Taking Responsibility for Your Actions
Now that you are an adult desiring to evolve into a stronger person, remember the formula: To understand, react, and evolve = taking responsibility for your actions.
Taking responsibility for your actions and your life is a tremendous gift. It sounds like work, and it can be. But, it is actually the Golden Ring, the Morning Sunrise and the Light at the End of the Tunnel.
Because taking responsibility or holding yourself accountable for your life’s happenings promotes positivity, healthy productivity, and feelings of worth. Being aware of and applying accountability for your actions reinforces and restructures emotional strength and esteem. It reduces vulnerability for negative repercussions. It feels cleaner and safer to own what you do, think or say instead of allowing the world to manipulate uncertainties or untruths, which is self-defeating.
1. Believe in ownership. Whether at work or at play, taking responsibility for yourself and all that comes with you offers incredible esteem strengtheners. Holding dear to the value of your heart and soul is about trusting your purest form of truth and ownership. Own your perceptions honestly. Own your reactions enough to control them. Reap the rewards of evolving from this ownership.
2. Believe in goodness. It is everyone’s truth deep inside. We were born with goodness. Goodness instills goodness, especially if purposely encouraged. Begin by seeking out goodness and work toward emotionally attaching yourself to it. Seek to instill goodness in the world around you. By connecting to goodness, you are taking responsibility for creating the world you deserve.
3. Believe in the rewards of accountability. Life isn’t always a straight path of butterflies and unicorns. When hardships find us, consider the part you played in being sought out by hardship. It is important not to blame anyone, including yourself. Simply acknowledge the circumstance, think of what could have been done differently and make every effort to correct or amend the negative end-result, so history doesn’t repeat itself. Understanding the steps of how to avoid future hardships is a reward that keeps on giving.
Feeling Better Without The Huge Price Tag
Taking these steps is designed for every single person. Our humanness is where it all begins. Our human connection energizes actions and reactions. We all fall into moments of in-accountability. Understanding this makes it even more important to work on ourselves instead of trying to fix or blame others.
As you begin regaining inner strength toward accountability, then you begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. This also encourages a better understanding towards others, removing the expensive cost of pointing blame.
The importance of taking care of our own business develops our sincere forms of personal truth, self-trust, and self-reliance. It has the power to remove the enormous price tag of bitterness and negative self-talk.
Positive self-worth, inner-strength, and compassion can be yours. Walk with your head held high because you can. Shine the light of personal accountability on the world. We all will thank you.