At the delicate age of twenty-one, one major fact began to occur to me. There were so many things going on in my life- from my late electricity bill payment to my father losing his job and me having to assume the responsibility of caring for my family. I would feel so lost in this world and did not know who to go to for help, or even who would want to share the burdens of my problems. In short, life was hitting me at full force with countless obstacles that no recently turned legal adult should have to go through. To sum it up: why is life so hard?
“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” – Joel Osteen
Why Does Life have to be so Hard? Here are 4 reasons
Life can be tough, but it is all about making mistakes and learning from them. By learning from our mistakes, we are capable of growing both spiritually and mentally. There are many speculations as to why individuals today are experiencing a more difficult life than previously.
- Money: Money is perhaps our most significant problem in life. The modern world revolves around it- how much you have of it can either make or break you. Some individuals even equate having a lot of money to living a more happy and satisfying life. However, making a sustainable amount of money is difficult. To do this, one needs to have a well-paying job, and these are not easy to come about. Well-paying jobs require proper qualifications, which means a person can even be in debt before working to pay it off. Student loans are no joke.
- Relationships: Humans have an innate desire to belong and be a part of a community. Thus, we form connections with anyone we feel is worthy of our company (because humans are very selfish creatures). It can be difficult finding the right person for a romantic relationship, and it may also be the same deal with finding friends. The introduction of social media and online messaging has also changed how we form relationships. This change, in fact, added another layer of stress to the equation.
- Health: Good health is essential for a good quality of life. Our fast-food industries are now beginning to understand this by creating healthier foods such as salads on their menus. As humans, we have a predisposition to like the taste of saltier foods, and often, these foods can be unhealthy for us. Eating healthy can be a daunting task if done without proper knowledge, and sometimes, that snippet of chocolate looks too good.
- Freedom: Although America is the “Land of the Free,” we continuously have the government being a huge part of our lives. Topics such as censorship, the fight for abortion and LBGT+Q rights, and many others have become a prominent aspect of daily life, and it can be hard not to take part in them.
Life is hard, but there are certain tips you can follow to make for a happy, and stress-free life, whether it be financially, relationship-wise, or emotionally.
The Glory of Raising a Child (and the Four Years of Your Paycheck Lost Forever)
Our troubles begin at birth. With our births, we are not affected, but our parents are. Caring for a child is no easy task; according to the Department of Agriculture, the average cost for raising a child in a middle-income family is a whopping $233,610. For some, this may be the four times their annual income! This financial burden may dissuade many young couples from having a child until they are financially stable and settled in. However, this leads to another problem.
Studies have shown that it becomes harder for women to conceive a child with age. With this in mind, the couples who have waited to have a child may have a difficult time conceiving one. To prevent this from happening, I have compiled a list of tips to prepare for raising a child, and the process itself to make the financial burden a lot more bearable. Having a child should not cause other headaches (I mean, other than having to wake up and care for your baby at night).
Tips for Lessening the Financial Costs of Raising a Child
- Research the basic costs: These costs include life insurance, college funding, a savings account, and essential everyday purchases such as diapers. Waiting later in life to begin college funding or to purchase life insurance may result in a costlier expense. Thus, extensive research is needed on the subject, but if you are not feeling up to it, there are baby expense calculators available on the internet!
- Make a budget: Having a new child can be exciting, and you may want to provide the absolute best childcare items or accessories for your baby. While tempting, there are some items you absolutely do not need. For instance, choosing to buy five headbands in different variations of pink is an entirely unnecessary expense if looking to save money. One tip to remember is to look for items of both quality and great value.
- Ask for help: There chances are nearly 100% that you know someone either in your family or outside that has had a child. If you are closer than acquaintances to this person, it may be best to ask for any extra supplies, equipment, or clothing that the caregiver may have had after the child grew up. Any little bit helps, and babies do not differentiate between new or slightly used items!
This tips will lift a huge chunk of your expenses off your shoulders and will let you live the happy life both you and your child deserve!
Being a Proud Homeowner and Its Costs (Both emotionally and financially)
Owning your first home, or maybe second, is a rewarding experience. Many new homeowners feel accomplished and ready to take on whatever comes their way in the future. This attitude quickly changes with the number of bills that comes along with having a home.
The financial aspect of having a home should not take away from the experience at all. Every homeowner deserves to feel at ease in their own homes and stress-free. I can personally vouch for this because working all day long and coming home to only pay bills is no fun task. Being a homeowner may not be easy, but with the right strategies, it can be stress-free!
Strategies for a Stress-Free Homeowner Experience
- Install LED or CFL light bulbs: With the eco-friendly movement in progress and more people looking to save money in their homes, LED and CFL light bulb purchases have rapidly been increasing. These bulbs are not only suitable for long-term use but save approximately $0.66 per month.
- Invest in timers: Your electricity bill can be one of the significant financial headaches any homeowner has to bear. Almost every appliance in your home uses electricity, and so, one way to reduce the energy consumption per outlet is by using timers. The timer can be set to turn off all devices at a specific time each day thus reducing the amount of used energy.
- Use Water-efficient toilets, showerheads, and faucets: A water bill at the end of every month can be enough to drain half of your paycheck. Consider investing in water-efficient toilets, showerheads, and faucets. These toilets use only 1.6 gallons of water per flush as compared to the previous 3.5 gallons. The showerheads and faucets are also made to release less water at the same pressure.
- Make a schedule: Being a homeowner incurs a lot of additional expenses such as energy, water, cable, or phone bills. By making a schedule with what payments are due on their designated days, it will be easier to pay your bills on time and avoid any late fees or damages to your credit score.
Forming Relationships and Finding Your One Love
Relationships can be a particularly touchy subject for a majority of single individuals. The formation of online dating or messaging has made the process easier but also more stressful. There can be instances of online bullying, which has the capability of affecting your mental health. It is essential to be in both a safe and healthy relationship. Here are some quick tips to follow.
- Love Yourself: This is the first step you should take before attempting to meet anyone. By accepting and embracing who you are, you will only be prone to positive thinking and will have less of a chance of accepting relationships with individuals who may not be worth it. Some positivity can go a long way.
- People are selfish: Humans are born with a predisposed bias that attracts us to anyone who is immensely similar to us regardless of gender. If your significant other or best friend could be mistaken for your twin or sibling by either looks or personality, don’t let it bother you!
- Rejections happen: Being rejecting, or the ending of a long, loving relationship can seem unbearable. You might have already had your future planned out with that person, and now everything seems lost. It is essential to know that you are not alone and the first step to moving on is by accepting that even though one person has left, there are still others who love and care for you. You should learn from your past and face the future with a sound mind.
Living a Healthy Life
A large portion of the nation’s population is currently struggling with having a healthier lifestyle. Industries such as electronics and fast food make it increasingly more difficult for a person to muster the urge to get up from a sofa, shut off the television, and go outside for some sunshine and exercise. Not to mention, with homeowners leaning more towards concrete flooring than grass, there is less available space for gardening.
Living healthy is important to maintain a better quality of life!
Tips for a Healthier Lifestyle
- Healthier Diet: Fast foods are notorious for the excessive amount of oils and fats found in them. Although fries and burgers may seem appealing, they can cause harmful effects such as heart problems and obesity. Trust me, your mouth may thank you for those foods, but your body will not. Instead of opting to eat these foods, healthier substitutions can be made. For instance, baked potato fries serve as a tasty alternative to regular french fries. The internet offers many resources for creating a healthier diet, such as nutrition guidelines.
- Exercise: Keeping active increases the efficiency of our immune systems and can make us physically fit. Studies have shown frequent exercise to be linked to a more positive body image and longevity in life.
- De-stress: De-stressing is perhaps one of the best things you can do after a long day at work. It creates a natural “high” that both relaxes and soothes your muscles and nerves. Some popular ways to de-stress include yoga, listening to music, watching a movie, or reading a book.
Unrealistic Expectations Cause Tears and Pain
Life is not a fantasy. As dull as those words may seem, they are 100% true. Growing up, we all have unrealistic expectations of the future world. We all aspire to do big things and probably change the world. In fact, maybe you have been told at least once in your childhood that you could be the president if you wanted to.
Life is what you make it to be. Being president, or in any other powerful occupation, requires years of education and training in the field. For instance, to be a doctor, one would have to go through four years of regular college education, residency, medical school, and internships. These would amass to nearly a decade before even entering the position of a practicing doctor.
To remove any unrealistic ideas of life, it is important to follow these two tips.
Detoxing Yourself of Unrealism
- Make achievable goals: Life is all about making goals and working towards achieving them. Think about it. When learning to read, you made an internal goal as a child to read the words of the world around you, and soon achieved that goal. It is no different with your career and home. If you want to lose weight, set a schedule aside for a frequent workout and dietary regulations. It is important to put work in to achieve your goal.
- Be appreciative of the little things: It is often heard that the little things in life matter the most. This is definitely true because they are what make us who we are. You may have things that others do not, such as sufficient food or shelter. By being knowledgeable about and accepting these facts, we can look past fairytale expectations and be satisfied with our own lives.
Living a Happy Life and Additional Tips
Life is all about living to your fullest and helping others do the same. Here are some quick, additional tips to make your life a joyful experience.
- Help Others: Happiness lies in the happiness of others. Because we are intimate creatures, we seek the approval or companionship of other individuals. This causes us to feel happy as well. Next time you see an elderly person struggling to unload his grocery cart, make sure to stop by and help. Positivity can go a long way!
- Forgive and Forget: Holding grudges often leads to more stress. Mistakes happen all the time, and it is a fact of life as humans. Forgiving makes you a better person and increases your self-worth.
- Be Yourself: Everyone’s time on this beautiful planet is very limited. Don’t waste any of your time trying to be someone you are not! Make the most of the time and live with no regrets. Just don’t do anything illegal.
- Appreciate Nature: Nature is beautiful and relaxing. A walk on a trail or a trip to the park can be just what you need to get away from the hustle and bustle of daily life.
- Celebrate Little Victories: This goes along with living every day like it is your last. You will not want to have any regrets, so it is best to enjoy every moment you have with your family and friends as you never know what the future may hold.
- Be Creative: Creativity sparks imagination and can actually promote happiness.
By working in a career field that you enjoy, attempting to live a healthier lifestyle, being thankful, or even smiling once in a while, positive vibes will soon reach your life and household. Hopefully, with these simple tips, you can achieve the life that you have always wanted. The first step to a happier lifestyle begins solely with you and ends with you.